Rants

[WaffleKingwSyrup]

just #### admit it! don't go on and on about something on that subject but completely irrelevant to problem at hand and making different analogies for the same point so you can sound like you know all about the subject. it's not helpful and doesn't solve anything. it just makes me pissed off at you and ignore you all weekend.

[scrapyard]

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[westpark]

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[Inuyashafx1]

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WaffleKingwSyrup wrote:

just #### admit it! don't go on and on about something on that subject but completely irrelevant to problem at hand and making different analogies for the same point so you can sound like you know all about the subject. it's not helpful and doesn't solve anything. it just makes me pissed off at you and ignore you all weekend.

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HA!   I'm going to guess it's a guy right?   Good luck with that, hell will probably freeze over before "he" admits to it. 

Not just guys, but people who actually own up to their mistakes or ignorance are few and far between.

[WaffleKingwSyrup]

Yes, he IS a guy. He prides himself in knowing a lot about a lot of things. Plus, he's French and there is something about that culture and placing a high value on proving your points. He tends to bully with yelling rather than making a good point in a civilized discussion.

VERY frustrating!

[Inuyashafx1]

Boyfreind?

[3002-3038]

yeah.. people with god complexes annoy me.

[WaffleKingwSyrup]

yes! and he loves to feel intellectually superior. even when he's not.

[Inuyashafx1]

Thought so, and it's not just the French.  Arrogance of that nature is way more common than most people realize.  I myself am at times an arrogant egotistical conceited person.  And I fully admit to it,  at times I act that way without realizing it.  I do struggle with it and when I realize I"m doing it, I do apologize and own up to it.  Humility isn't easy.

Have you called him out on it?  

[WaffleKingwSyrup]

During the "discussion" (which was my trying to get a word in edgewise while he spoke over me and repeated the same analogies over and over) I called him out a couple times but he just kept saying "no..." and then going on and on.

This was over Skype (we're long distance at the moment) and I have not returned his calls. I emailed him explaining that I don't want to talk to him right now. He seems to feel bad and did apologize on my voicemail, but this is a chronic issue with him. It's hard to get over it quickly when he's doing it all the time.

[Inuyashafx1]

Arrogance is hard to put up with in a relationship.  Repeated arrogance in a relationship is almost intolerable and can be the basis for resentment and contention, which slowly poisons that relationship and eventually destroys it.

Don't know why, but I think when people repeat the same point over and over again they think it will win the discussion.  Like trying to force you into submission with repetition, even when they know they are wrong.  Hoping you wont notice the flaw in their point or argument.  Saying the same thing over and over until it becomes true.

Being a chronic thing with him, do you expect him to change?   He may just of apologized because you didn't return his calls and stopped talking to him.  Not because he realized he did something wrong. 

[WaffleKingwSyrup]

Sometimes I think that people consider two possible ways of winning an argument:

1. Making their points, and then hearing "Yeah, actually I think you're right."
2. Arguing for so long the other person doesn't feel like arguing anymore and just ends it (without agreeing to anything or saying something like "let's agree to disagree")

Who knows if he is sincere or not...we've been together for years and I'm not ready to end it all quite yet. Being long distance, things like this have a big impact, since it's already hard and he's not around to really "be there" for me.

We'll see what happens.

[Inuyashafx1]

LoL, 

I have met many people on the boards that match that type of arguing style.

And I'm not psychic, so I can't say that's what the bf was thinking and why he apoligized.  Just offering a possible scenario for your consideration.

Long distance relationships are hard,  I myself destroyed a cherished relationship of many years with my conceited arrogance.  I still to this day regret being such a fool.  Treed the waters carefully.  I think it would help for him to admit his ignorance/arrogance and ego,  but its not an easy thing for  a guy to admit to and going about it the wrong way could irrevocably damage the relationship. 

I suggest you open a discussion with admitting your own faults while calling attention to his faults equally.  If he can own up to his as you have to yours then progress can be made and your relationship should get better.

[Glodson]

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WaffleKingwSyrup wrote:

just #### admit it! don't go on and on about something on that subject but completely irrelevant to problem at hand and making different analogies for the same point so you can sound like you know all about the subject. it's not helpful and doesn't solve anything. it just makes me pissed off at you and ignore you all weekend.

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But then what will I post in Babbling?!

[Kneon_Knight]

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WaffleKingwSyrup wrote:

just #### admit it! don't go on and on about something on that subject but completely irrelevant to problem at hand and making different analogies for the same point so you can sound like you know all about the subject. it's not helpful and doesn't solve anything. it just makes me pissed off at you and ignore you all weekend.

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I like toast.

[lunarnoodle]

I was gonna say "look it up", but yours works too.

[PiginthecityBlue]

But.. What does it all mean?